I’ve got one daughter, she goes to daycare twice a week (Tuesday’s and Friday’s). On Tuesday’s I work an evening shift on my job. So I’ve got the morning up until about 1 p.m to code. On Friday’s I took the full day off permanently. So I work 4 days now, means less income but it’s an investment I’m willing to make. I tried to learn with a 5 day workweek but I didn’t have the brains to focus at night everytime.
It’s hard for me to study with my daughter running around me, I always feel bad when she asks me to play and I want to finish just this one challenge or only try to fix the navbar or something. It always takes much longer then I want it. I already have the feeling I don’t see her enough (most parents would say I’m crazy and I see her more then the average father, but what can I say, she’s my everything), so that’s why I scheduled time alone so I can fully study without the distraction or feeling guilty.
See if you can schedule some hours here and there, discuss with your husband / partner. We made Gmail account for the both of us and set that as the calender on our phones. I put my study days in there and my girlfriend hers. This gives a very good overview on how much time you spend on coding and how much time you have for your family or work, this way you can study much more relaxed and you can enjoy free time with your kids more.
Hope this was of help a little! Good luck out there.